Is Shame Healthy?
There is a shame that is healthy. Our conscience causes us to experience healthy shame when we violate one of God’s moral codes. This shame signals broken connection with God and with others. It points to something we did and it tells us, “That action is not acceptable. You need forgiveness.” If we respond to healthy shame by coming to the Lord and asking forgiveness, He washes us clean.
Key: Good shame teaches us to honor a healthy boundary and helps us turn our eyes onto Jesus, so we move in relationship with God and with others.
Good shame teaches us to honor a healthy boundary and helps us turn our eyes onto Jesus, so we move in relationship with God and with others.
What is Toxic Shame?
Toxic shame originates from a heart wound done to us. It strips us and leaves us broken and without hope. Sourced from the kingdom of darkness, it whispers, “You are unacceptable. You’re a bad person.” Wounded, our heart responds, “Yes. I’m bad. No one could ever love me.”
This is the shame that leads to a shame spiral.
Key: Such shame isolates you, silences your voice, and steals your identity. It is evil. It makes you believe the lie that you are shameful.
The Antidote to Toxic Shame
The Heavenly Father loves you. He sent His Son into the world to die to set you free. Jesus did not hide from shame, but took all shame upon Himself. He is the perfect and holy Lamb of God, who conquered all sin and all shame.
Today, Jesus says, “You are not shameful!” He beckons you to come. Cast your heavy burden on Him. Give Him your shame, fears, and feelings of alienation. In exchange, He covers you with His righteousness and He restores you to peace with His wonderful Abba Father.
You are not shameful. Cast your heavy burden on the Lord.