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How To Overcome Perfectionism

Perfect You don’t have to be perfect. I know you don’t believe me. I didn’t believe it either. That was before I learned how to overcome perfectionism. As a child I desperately tried to be perfect. Longing for affirmation, I modeled my behavior by what I had heard...

Just Breathe: Keys to Regulate Reactive Behavior

Extra Notes As you take time to just breathe, it down-regulates your amygdala and enables you to move out of the reactivity of the reptilian brain that yells danger. Exhaling through your nose switches you into the thoughtfulness and cognitive functioning of your...

Will I Ever Feel Safe After a Divorce?

The pain of divorce is overwhelming. Major problems confront us. Will the pain ever end? Will we ever feel safe after a divorce? Will we be able to trust again?

How To Overcome Perfectionism

Perfect You don’t have to be perfect. I know you don’t believe me. I didn’t believe it either. That was before I learned how to overcome perfectionism. As a child I desperately tried to be perfect. Longing for affirmation, I modeled my behavior by what I had heard...

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Jonathan Edwards Book Review

Years ago I was introduced to Jonathan Edwards when a young man quoted from “Sinners in the Hands of an Angry God”. My internal safety system went on high alert for I believed God was an angry, cruel old man up in the skies longing to catch someone – especially me –...

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How to Set Boundaries for Godly Sexuality

God wired us for sex. He wired us to find pleasure in it! If you are human, you were created to find pleasure in sex. Juxtaposed with pleasure, God established boundaries for the expression of sexual needs and desires within healthy relationships. Sex is to be between...

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Who is the Gatekeeper of Your Memories?

Just Get Over It! From childhood, we were taught to stuff our emotions. As tears slid down your face, perhaps you were told, “Men don’t cry!” Or, “It didn’t mean anything, he was drunk and didn’t know what he was doing.” Or “Good girls don’t get raped.” Or “Christians...

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Animal Cracker Jesus

Your Own Personal Jesus We love Jesus. We happily sing about Him being the Lion. That thrills us; makes us feel spiritual, giving us a sense of power. Lions are intimidating. Wise is the person who treats a lion with respectful fear. But as we approach Jesus Christ,...

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In Honor of Fathers

A Hiding Place I first began to imagine the Heavenly Father as a kind Father while I was reading Corrie ten Boom’s, The Hiding Place back in the '70's. Corrie’s father was a safe place for Corrie to go to and share her heart. In some ways, as I read that book, because...

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Find New Life by the Breath of the Spirit

Birth Birthdays are a wonderful event. A chance to celebrate life. Everyone loves a celebration. Last week I celebrated my second birth. This Saturday I will celebrate the day when I was first born! The first time you were born was a wonderful event, celebrated by the...

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Why is it so hard for me to rest in God?

Is It Hard For You to Be Quieted By His Love? One morning as I was praying outside, I heard a rustling noise. A mother dove and her chick appeared, walking through the grass. As I watched, I was transfixed by the spiritual lesson unfolding before me as the baby bird...

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The Story of 5 Trees and What They Taught Me

A Tree of Safety When I was about six, my brother Lea taught me to climb a huge tree, we called it the cigar tree – for it had seed pods that looked like cigars. Lea would lift me up, show me where to put my hands and feet, then descend behind me and place my feet in...

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A Mother’s Day Prayer

What do you face as a Mother? Mother’s Day is a special day of the year. A day of celebration of life. A day of joy. But the reality is many of us carry deep grief that threatens to overwhelm our broken heart as we shed secret tears in the night.  Whatever you face as...

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A Hidden Life: The Story of Telemachus

The power of transformative love took a little man and turned him into a great man whose life impacted a nation for good. Telemachus was a monk who lived in the 5th century AD in Asia, a place we know as Turkey. I was first introduced to him through the writing of...

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In Celebration of God’s Paschal Lamb

Passover is a wonderful time to consider the Paschal Lamb, foretold in Scripture. Last week we spoke of the “Zeroah”, the mighty arm of the Lord, who would come as a Suffering Servant to be wounded for our transgressions and bruised for our iniquities. If you missed...

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A Pagan Holiday or a Celebration of Life?

I love Resurrection Sunday! To me, it is the single most important day of the year. The first Easter after my baby girl went to be with Jesus, the truth of the resurrection hit me in a fresh way. I had always loved Easter but that day, my heart was nurtured in a way I...

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Who Am I? How Do I Develop a Healthy Identity?

You may know you are God’s child and believe Jesus loves you. Yet, be overwhelmed by feelings of rejection, depression, and insecurity, and hide in your imagination to feel safe. You love Jesus, but deep down, you feel worthless, empty, and unloved, and try to earn...

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Pray for the Rohingya

Genocide is Happening in Myanmar The Rohingya are Sunni Muslims who have lived in Myanmar since the 15th century. They are not recognized by the Myanmar government and have faced discrimination for generations. In 1962 their rights were limited, and today they are...

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How to be Thankful When You Dread the Holidays

Thanksgiving and Christmas may be a difficult time of the year, bringing increased stress and anxiety. For some, it highlights a sense of isolation or pain due to the loss of a loved one or of not having family nearby. Perhaps romantic expectations of what the holiday...

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About Barbara

As a former nurse, missionary, rape victim advocate, and mentor, Barbara has experienced and seen the effects of trauma and violence that limits one’s freedom to move forward in victory.

Her passion is to encourage others to retrain their brain so they can see life in a fresh way. She challenges each person to “Choose Life!”

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