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How Should We Respond to the Murder of George Floyd?

May 25th our nation was horrified when George Floyd was murdered in cold blood. Let us: Pause. Breathe. And let us thoughtfully cry to God for help. He abhors racial violence. It must stop. Where Do We Begin? First, we need God’s help to move in wisdom to honor the...

How Can I Change My Brain? Learn Self-Care for Your Dendrites

It’s normal to experience frustration by the actions of others. But to try to change them is a waste of time and energy. Let’s say this upfront. No matter how hard you try, you can’t change anyone.   The good news is you can change your brain by altering how you...

Feel Lonely? This Tip Can Help | COVID-19

Today our world is facing a threat we have never experienced before.  The unknown is causing some to be riddled with fear. Others are indifferent. Please do not fear COVID-19. Fear that triggers us will open the door to the enemy of our soul, giving him permission to...

Feel Lonely? This Tip Can Help | COVID-19

Today our world is facing a threat we have never experienced before.  The unknown is causing some to be riddled with fear. Others are indifferent. Please do not fear COVID-19. Fear that triggers us will open the door to the enemy of our soul, giving him permission to...

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Be My Valentine

Valentine’s is upon us. If you are single and like many people, you probably wish you had someone who makes you feel special.  I remember Valentine’s Days when I was discouraged because I was alone. Have you had that experience? Being alone feels like something is...

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Your Brain is Lying to You

The Flight Response You are fearfully and wonderfully created. God made you to be sensitive to your environment so you can quickly respond to danger. The flight response is a healthy form of temporary survival where your reptilian brain takes over to keep you safe...

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The Fight Response: Anger Will Not Protect You

STUCK IN THE FIGHT MODE Our focus today is the fight mode. To stand and fight in the face of danger is wise. But to become locked in the fight mode is foolish because it exposes you to danger. Saul, the first king of Israel, chose to embrace anger because it felt...

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How to Overcome the Freeze Response

Do You Freeze Under Stress? While camouflage is part of human warfare, it’s not a skill you or I chose to develop. If we're honest, when apprehensive, fearful of making a wrong choice, or not wanting to hurt anyone, we tend to freeze. Experiencing trauma in childhood,...

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Are You Ready to Step Into Your Destiny?

Dear Heart Do you feel like you have missed your destiny? There is good news! Don’t be discouraged. In spite of missed opportunities, it is never too late to move forward and step into your destiny. Sorrow and pain precede the glory and fruit of experiencing one’s...

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The Incredible Courage of Ruth

Have You Ever Felt Broken or Destitue? I love Ruth. Grieving, feeling broken and destitute, in vunerability, she demonstrated incredible courage. Her respect and love for her mother-in-law, Naomi, inspired her to make a decision that would impact the world. Listening...

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5 Simple Keys to Trauma Recovery

Trauma is real. While medical journals say there’s no cure, you have power to move out of victimization by choosing life.  If you live in the present and take specific steps to retrain your brain, you will experience resurrection power setting you free from the past....

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Is It Possible to Recover from Trauma?

Trauma creates overwhelming feelings of being out of control.  You feel helpless. You experience feelings of being smothered, where you desperately work to find breath to survive. You struggle to cope, unable to find words to describe your constant sense of danger or...

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You are Not Covered in Shame

Overcoming Limiting Beliefs It’s crazy how often we think God is being mean or unfair to us, that He finds pleasure in watching us squirm and struggle. But isn't true! God hates evil. He doesn’t hate you. He's not angry with you but He is angry about sin done against...

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The Guts and Glory of Forgiveness

Find Healing Through Forgiveness The greatest and most arduous adventures of life I have embarked upon are the mountains of forgiveness. The journey is fraught with perils and difficulty. But each time I reach a pinnacle - the vista is gorgeous. My heart is filled...

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Orphans and Street Children in Mongolia

God Has A Good Plan Years ago, I longed to go to Mongolia but the Lord never took me there. Mongolia is the second largest landlocked country in the world and is located between Russia and China. For 70 years the Soviets occupied the country but today Mongolia is a...

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7 Steps to Freedom Through Forgiveness

Do you long for freedom? Freedom isn’t a given in life. If you don’t take active steps to overcome your chains, you will remain a slave to the past. Let’s look at 7 steps to freedom through forgiveness. When You Bury the Past “You stupid idiot. Can’t you do anything...

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You Don’t Have to Earn God’s Love

The wonderful truth that took me years to learn is you don’t have to earn God’s love or forgiveness! Also, the Heavenly Father loves us to celebrate freedom. Did you know God likes numbers? He had Israel organize life into groups of 7. In the 49th year, which is 7...

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How You Can Experience Freedom From Curses

Words have power to bless or to curse others. The words you speak over yourself have the same power. Negative words bring limitations, insecurity, torment, illness, and even death. The joyful news is there is freedom from every curse.  Prepare to Die I was in seventh...

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How Servant Leadership Saved My Life

When I was seven, I nearly drowned. As I wrote this story, I realized my brother exemplified servant leadership. Lea is my hero. His example teaches us how being present in the moment and envisaging the end result will help us move with thoughtfulness and clarity. The...

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A Love Letter to Hurting or Struggling Moms

Dear Mom, You may be a mom whose heart is breaking. You might struggle with exhaustion from caring for a mentally challenged, special needs, or very ill child. Perhaps you lost your child to death or your child was physically taken from you. Your anguish may be...

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How To Find a Secure Hope

In what do you place your hope? Perhaps it's success. A great career. Making a fortune. Being loved or having children. If it is something transient, you have placed your hope in something false that can crash and burn. In my thirties, I felt full of hope. Married,...

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Signs a Relationship is Becoming Toxic

If you are in a relationship where you're not accepted for who you are; you aren't treated with respect; your boundaries are ignored; you are being manipulated, mocked, humiliated, and even victimized – you need to know – the Lord doesn’t approve of what is happening....

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It’s Ok To Be Where You Are

A Rescue Mission I want to share a secret.  For you to get unstuck or be set free from whatever is holding you in bondage – you have to learn to be where you are – in the moment. And being present, it is important to be able to open your mouth and ask for help when...

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Transformation: What It Is and Isn’t

Transformation Have you ever wondered what transformation is about? Or pondered why it has become the buzzword among life coaches and public speakers? In Latin, trans means across or through and forma means to form. To transform means there is change that cuts across...

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In Honor of True Friendship

Loss of a True Friend On February 7th, 1979, my beloved child, Charissa died, a victim of SIDS. Since that day, many I loved have died. Tragically, the arch enemy cancer has stolen the lives of many of my friends and family, including my grandmother, Aunt Winnie, Aunt...

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When God Doesn’t Do What You Want

Each morning I go outside with a cup of hot water and walk barefoot through the grass to a little hill facing the woods behind my home. In the bright morning light and fresh air, I talk with the Lord. One morning I heard a noise in the undergrowth in front of me....

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What Do You Struggle With?

We each have our own struggles. If you have a topic you’d like me to write on, I’d love to hear your thoughts.
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