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Rosh Hashanah | Reflection and Repentance

Did you know Jesus celebrated Rosh Hashanah – the Feast of Trumpets every year of His life? If we look at traditions He engaged in, we’ll gain a clearer understanding of who He is.

You Are God’s Work of Art

Do I Have Value? “But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us,” (2 Co 4:7). Have you ever thought of yourself as a storehouse? According to Paul, you are. The place treasures and valuables are kept holds...

You Are More Than a Shell

What a Beautiful Shell You Have! Each person has a unique shell. From rich creamy brown, pale or golden, black or bronze or albino skin.  Masculine. Feminine. Long and slender. Short and petite. Skinny or fat. Blonde, flaming red, luxuriant black, curly or straight...
Transformation: What It Is and Isn’t

Transformation: What It Is and Isn’t

Transformation Have you ever wondered what transformation is about? Or pondered why it has become the buzzword among life coaches and public speakers? In Latin, trans means across or through and forma means to form. To transform means there is change that cuts across...

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In Honor of True Friendship

In Honor of True Friendship

Loss of a True Friend On February 7th, 1979, my beloved child, Charissa died, a victim of SIDS. Since that day, many I loved have died. Tragically, the arch enemy cancer has stolen the lives of many of my friends and family, including my grandmother, Aunt Winnie, Aunt...

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When God Doesn’t Do What You Want

When God Doesn’t Do What You Want

Each morning I go outside with a cup of hot water and walk barefoot through the grass to a little hill facing the woods behind my home. In the bright morning light and fresh air, I talk with the Lord. One morning I heard a noise in the undergrowth in front of me....

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Bird in a Cage

Bird in a Cage

Depths of a Dungeon Sandy lay slumped against the dank wall in the dark cell, deep in a dungeon no one except her tormentor knew about. Her hair was straggly and tangled, her clothes torn and filthy, her heart irreparably broken. As she tried to change position, a...

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The Power of Trauma to Trap You In The Past

The Power of Trauma to Trap You In The Past

Trauma wields great power In the moment of impact – the impact of steel as a truck slammed into your car. The impact of a hand raised in violence. The impact of rape. The impact of early childhood trauma. The impact of any other type of violence leaves one powerless....

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Have You Given Yourself Permission to Grieve?

Have You Given Yourself Permission to Grieve?

The loss of a parent is the loss of the past. The loss of a spouse is the lost of the present. The loss of a child is the loss of the future. In your loss, have you experienced this to be true? As I got into the car the other day to go to the market, I heard the last...

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6 Topics. 6 Videos. 9 Minutes.

6 Topics. 6 Videos. 9 Minutes.

Questions Over the last week, I've shared videos to Facebook on hot topics. Because some of you aren't on social media, I wanted to make sure you also had access to this content!  I'm excited to share the videos with you, which were just uploaded to Vimeo. Each video...

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A Prayer for 2019 | Video Blog To Encourage You

A Prayer for 2019 | Video Blog To Encourage You

Blessings of Peace Just as Jesus stilled the turbulent Galilean sea, may the Lord quiet your heart. In the midst of the turbulence, may Jesus be your peace.  In this week's episode of 5 Minutes to Transformation, (which is under 3 minutes), I pray for you and speak a...

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Are You Stuck? My Top Tip for the New Year VLOG

Are You Stuck? My Top Tip for the New Year VLOG

Are You Feeling Stuck? If you’re wondering how to make 2019 great, you’ll love my top tip to start the New Year strong. This is my last blog for the year! I appreciate you for taking time to read or listen to what I share. The times you have also responded and shared...

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A Christmas Message | Video Blog

A Christmas Message | Video Blog

Dear Friend, Only 5 days until Christmas! Some of us love Christmas and experience great joy simply at the thought of that day. Others find it to be a lonely and difficult time of the year. No matter your situation or the struggles you face, may the wonder of Christ,...

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Do You Ever Engage in Imaginary Conversations?

Do You Ever Engage in Imaginary Conversations?

A World You Can Control Do you ever engage in imaginary conversations where you become a victim? I am sure you will quickly answer no. But if you are like most of humanity, then you regularly engage in such conversations. You know. The kind where you were walking down...

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You Can Break the Cycle of Abuse

You Can Break the Cycle of Abuse

Break the Cycle of Abuse If you have been victimized, you don’t believe you are worthy of respect. You probably don’t even respect yourself. This leads to a fairy tale mindset where you imagine scenarios where someone comes and rescues you. Living in your imagination...

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How To Overcome Perfectionism

How To Overcome Perfectionism

Perfect You don’t have to be perfect. I know you don’t believe me. I didn’t believe it either. That was before I learned how to overcome perfectionism. As a child I desperately tried to be perfect. Longing for affirmation, I modeled my behavior by what I had heard...

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Jonathan Edwards Book Review

Jonathan Edwards Book Review

Years ago I was introduced to Jonathan Edwards when a young man quoted from “Sinners in the Hands of an Angry God”. My internal safety system went on high alert for I believed God was an angry, cruel old man up in the skies longing to catch someone – especially me –...

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How to Set Boundaries for Godly Sexuality

How to Set Boundaries for Godly Sexuality

God wired us for sex. He wired us to find pleasure in it! If you are human, you were created to find pleasure in sex. Juxtaposed with pleasure, God established boundaries for the expression of sexual needs and desires within healthy relationships. Sex is to be between...

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Who is the Gatekeeper of Your Memories?

Who is the Gatekeeper of Your Memories?

Just Get Over It! From childhood, we were taught to stuff our emotions. As tears slid down your face, perhaps you were told, “Men don’t cry!” Or, “It didn’t mean anything, he was drunk and didn’t know what he was doing.” Or “Good girls don’t get raped.” Or “Christians...

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Animal Cracker Jesus

Animal Cracker Jesus

Your Own Personal Jesus We love Jesus. We happily sing about Him being the Lion. That thrills us; makes us feel spiritual, giving us a sense of power. Lions are intimidating. Wise is the person who treats a lion with respectful fear. But as we approach Jesus Christ,...

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God the Father Carries Our Heavy Burdens

God the Father Carries Our Heavy Burdens

A Hiding Place I first began to imagine the Heavenly Father as a kind Father while I was reading Corrie ten Boom’s, The Hiding Place back in the '70's. Corrie’s father was a safe place for her to go to and share her heart. Because her father was a safe place, it...

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Find New Life by the Breath of the Spirit

Find New Life by the Breath of the Spirit

Birth Birthdays are a wonderful event. A chance to celebrate life. Everyone loves a celebration. Last week I celebrated my second birth. This Saturday I will celebrate the day when I was first born! The first time you were born was a wonderful event, celebrated by the...

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Why is it so hard for me to rest in God?

Why is it so hard for me to rest in God?

Is It Hard For You to Be Quieted By His Love? One morning as I was praying outside, I heard a rustling noise. A mother dove and her chick appeared, walking through the grass. As I watched, I was transfixed by the spiritual lesson unfolding before me as the baby bird...

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The Story of 5 Trees and What They Taught Me

The Story of 5 Trees and What They Taught Me

A Tree of Safety When I was about six, my brother Lea taught me to climb a huge tree, we called it the cigar tree – for it had seed pods that looked like cigars. Lea would lift me up, show me where to put my hands and feet, then descend behind me and place my feet in...

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A Mother’s Day Prayer

A Mother’s Day Prayer

What do you face as a Mother? Mother’s Day is a special day of the year. A day of celebration of life. A day of joy. But the reality is many of us carry deep grief that threatens to overwhelm our broken heart as we shed secret tears in the night.  Whatever you face as...

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A Hidden Life: The Story of Telemachus

A Hidden Life: The Story of Telemachus

The power of transformative love took a little man and turned him into a great man whose life impacted a nation for good. Telemachus was a monk who lived in the 5th century AD in Asia, a place we know as Turkey. I was first introduced to him through the writing of...

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In Celebration of God’s Paschal Lamb

In Celebration of God’s Paschal Lamb

Passover or Pesach reminds us of the Paschal Lamb spoken of in Scripture. It is also appropriate to consider the “Zeroah”, the mighty arm of the Lord spoken of in Isaiah 53. Isaiah prophesied the Zeroah would come as the Suffering Servant to be wounded for our...

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A Pagan Holiday or a Celebration of Life?

A Pagan Holiday or a Celebration of Life?

I love Resurrection Sunday! To me, it is the single most important day of the year. The first Easter after my baby girl went to be with Jesus, the truth of the resurrection hit me in a fresh way. I had always loved Easter but that day, my heart was nurtured in a way I...

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As a trauma survivor, Barbara finds joy in helping people experience healing and spiritual restoration.

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