Today, we are a people with deep father wounds.
My paternal great-grandfather left Germany; the only job in Kentucky he could find was in a coal mine.
Grandfather was born in America; sadly, he was sent into the mine when he was 8 years old. In those days, there were no safety regulations – little children squeezed through narrow shafts, bringing coal to the surface. Casualties were high; many children died or were seriously injured.
Grandpa, who died of Black Lung Disease, numbed his heart with alcohol. When my dad was born, Grandpa swore his son would never enter a coal mine. He kept that promise. Sadly, although he loved Dad, his heart wound resulted in a huge disconnect between them.
Dad dealt with his heart wound by looking down on his father. To numb his heart, he embraced anger and swore he would never be like his dad. Unable to forgive or understand his father’s love, he became an angry, abusive intellectual.
Father Heart Wound
Father heart wounds leave the child struggling to survive, struggling to be safe. Those wounds continue through life, creating the overwhelming need to be safe. Survival demands the child hide and numb the pain of his heart. Seeds sown by abuse cause the child to unconsciously relate to God the Father as an amplification of everything hurtful or hateful about their earthly dad.
A victim of childhood abuse, I had a deep heart wound and grew up terrified of God the Father, wanting nothing to do with such a cruel God. The Lord has tenderly worked with me to reveal my heart wound. Through a process – He has been healing my broken heart.
Because I did not experience Dad’s love or nurture, I experienced life as if I was an orphan. To my great joy, because of the transformative power of the Lord, today, I am secure in Jesus’ Daddy. I am no longer an orphan, for I rest in my adoptive Daddy’s love.
Father Wounds Block Intimacy
This is important to understand.
Do you have a father wound? If so, you will be unaware of lies you imbibed as truth or the devastation caused deep inside you. That father heart wound torments you, accuses you, and determines your level of intimacy with the Heavenly Father.
The Lord created you to thrive. He did not want you to be locked into the survival mode where you desperately struggle to be safe by denying your own personhood.
Antidote to the Father Wound
🗝️ The only antidote for a father-heart wound is Jesus. Fix your eyes on Jesus. Because you love Him with all of your heart, decide to receive His wonderful Daddy as your very own Daddy.
The truth is: His Daddy loves and cares and is always there for Jesus. Loving Jesus – Abba Father loves and cares and is always there for you.
To be free, your relationship with God needs to move outside the box, moving beyond head knowledge down into the most vulnerable part of you – your spirit.
Knowledge is useful, but it cannot keep you safe; it cannot transform you or heal your broken heart.
Superficial truth often feels powerful, but it is impotent. For it to change your life, it must move beyond head knowledge (which is soulish), to penetrate your heart. It is your heart that allows you to receive the truth deep in your spirit – the real you.
Secret Key to Happiness
What is that liberating truth?
🗝️ The Daddy of Jesus is a good Daddy; He sees you as a treasure, not a burden or liability.
Our foundation is Jesus Christ, the Son of the Most High God. From the position of being sealed with His Holy Spirit, we move to face God and man. We move without fear or apology – for we no longer have to appease an angry God. My friend, we also don’t need to appease men or women in our life.
Once you stand secure in your identity in Christ, led by the Holy Spirit, and secure in the Father’s loving kindness, you begin to move out of chaos into godly order as you pray.
🗝️ To move the heart of Almighty God, become like a child. Pray in simplicity and faith to the Daddy of Jesus and He will touch the hearts and lives of those for whom you intercede.
Jesus said, “God is a Spirit: and they who worship Him must worship Him in spirit and in truth” (John 4:24).
Heal Me Lord & I Shall Be Healed
Does it feel like your prayers are bouncing off the ceiling?
* Ask Jesus to enlighten your eyes to the truth: His Daddy is a good Daddy who wants to hear your voice.
* Ask Him to reveal and uproot any lies rooted in the soil of your heart about His Daddy.
* Ask Him to heal your broken heart and set you free to become who He destined you to be.
* Declare, “Heal me, O LORD, and I shall be healed; Save me, and I shall be saved, For You are my praise” (Jer 17:4).
And when you face a mountain, come as a little child, secure in your father’s love. Like a child, come with no doubt.
- Take your worries and anxieties of not being good enough for God to hear you. Place them in a box. Close the lid!
- Give that box to Jesus to take care of. He can carry it without being hurt – but if you carry it, it will break you.
- Come, believing your Daddy is a good Daddy and delights in answering your prayers.
- Ask the Father in Jesus’ name for the burden on your heart.
- Thank Him.
- Then listen. Don’t hurry out of the Father’s presence, lest you miss what the Holy Spirit wants to say to you.
- Waiting means you will experience covering, shelter, safety, and peace.
Assurance the Father Hears
Prayer is not about knowledge, duty, or determination. Nor is it about being “spiritual” or a good person.
Prayer is about relational intimacy. It is a heart connection with the Father.
The Heavenly Father listens to the cry of your heart, not because you are good but because Jesus is good! So come, just as you are. Abba Father waits to hear your voice and to heal your heart wound.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Phil 4:6-7 ESV).
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ALWAYS relevant to speak about father wounds. This generation is saturated with emotional scars because of bad father/child relationships. Thanks for helping the healing process.
Thank you for your comment, Fred.
“Saturated with emotional scars” are such powerful words. The beauty is Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted and restore relationships between the fathers and their children.
John the Baptizer said Jesus would “‘turn the hearts of the fathers to the children,’ and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just, to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.”
Oh, that we would each experience inner healing, as looking unto Jesus the Author & Finisher of our salvation, we experience Him healing our broken hearts and filling us with joy unspeakable and full of glory.
God bless you.