Transformative Blog
Weekly blogs to help you find healing, hope, and freedom
Struggling to Pray? It Could Be Your Father Wound
. Do you have a father wound? If so, you will be unaware of lies you imbibed as truth or the devastation caused deep inside you.
God is a Loving Father, He Welcomes You With Open Arms
God isn’t a cruel old man; He is a tender Daddy who loves you and calls you His own.
Does the Way You Pray Measure Your Experience of the Lord?
The Heavenly Father finds delight in you and receives your prayers as a gift from your heart to His.
Standing Strong in Prayer | How to Overcome a Distracted Mind When Praying
the validity and the effectuality of prayer are not determined or even affected by the subjective psychological condition of the one who prays.
How do We Pray? Prayer Grows Out of Friendship
Tell Him about whatever is on your heart. And listen as He speaks – through His Word and through His Spirit to your spirit.
Seasons in the Spiritual Realm | Thoughts on Prayer
To flow in unity with the Holy Spirit, we must turn our back on condemnation and receive the grace of the Lord. He will bring us through all seasons in the spiritual realm.
Healing the Mother Wound (It’s Never Too Late to be Nurtured)
He understands your pain. Allow His mother heart to minister to your wounded heart, embracing and nourishing you, comforting and blessing you.
Finding Light in the Darkness (Step Onto the Path of Peace)
I love trees. All shapes, sizes, and species. There is something majestic and inviting about them. Stepping beneath the canopy of the forest, I automatically inhale deeply. As my body relaxes, a feeling of contentment embraces me, and my soul is nurtured; I am in a...
What Happens When Your Survival Skills Hurt You?
This morning, a beautiful rust-colored bird got into my screened porch. Greatly distressed, he flew against the screen, first on one side, then another. Seeing me, he grew more frightened; not thinking clearly, he repeatedly flew into the screen, attempting to escape....
Does it Feel Like God Doesn’t Care When Bad Happens? (Truth: The Lord Cherishes You)
Why Does God Let Bad Things Happen? Does God care when your world collapses and your voice is silenced? Does the Lord see when war drives women and children from their homes and destroys communities? Can I trust God when evil flourishes? If we are honest, we have all...
Are We Living in the End Times? (It’s Ok, There Is Hope)
Regardless of your belief about when the Lord is returning, we each need hope. One thing is certain, no one knows the day or the hour.
This is How to Find Safety in Christ When You Face Fear
How Can I Feel Safe? We know in our heads that Jesus is stronger than whatever confronts us. But we need more in the face of terrible fears. Last night, relaxing in safety, a huge noise came at us. For a moment, it felt like an invasion as our home shook and noise...
How to Find Purpose When It Feels Like God Has Forgotten You
Does My Life Have Purpose? Do you feel you need a dynamic, visible role in the Church to be valued by God? Does working a secular job or staying home to raise children imply you have no purpose? Do you ever feel unworthy or fear you won’t hear Jesus say, “Well done,...
What to Do When Fear of Failure Keeps You from Growing
Let Go of the Fear of Failure Let go of what you can’t do, of what people might think, and step out of the boat. Try! It’s okay not to be perfect. Fear of Failure Have you ever avoided trying something new because you were afraid of failing? It is hard to step...
What to Do When You’re Hanging By a Thread
Do you feel like you are hanging on by a thread? A few months ago, during my morning walk, I noticed a pine cone caught in Spanish moss, gently swinging in the breeze. After a few days, the moss shifted and the cone hung by a strand. Marveling each time I passed under...
The Beginner’s Guide to Seeing Value in Others
You are of incredible value, and the Lord will bless you as you allow Him to use you to be His hands and arms to love the brokenhearted. Life is made up of relationships. Some fun. Some stimulating. Some toxic or heartbreaking. We quickly warm to some people; others,...
From Favored Son to Lowly Slave: Is God Still Good When Bad Things Happen?
Why Does God Let Bad Things Happen? The Lord God plans to do you good; His plans are not for disaster but to give you a future and a hope. God Had a Perfect Plan But His path led Joseph right through the valley of the shadows. In loving-kindness, the Lord positioned...
You Are Safe in the Father’s Arms
Does God Really Love Me? Do you find it difficult to imagine God loves you as you are? If you have a father wound, such a thought is almost unthinkable. Sunday, I saw one of the most beautiful pictures of a father’s love; it delighted my heart, giving me a new picture...
What Is a Sweet Smelling Aroma to God?
What Is a Sweet Aroma to God? Your aroma matters. Advertising teaches it is shameful to have any body odor, so they have come up with a plethora of synthetic goods to fix us. If we buy their products, we avoid embarrassment by having no odor (except theirs). I...
Don’t Let Your Brain Hold You Back: Open the Door to Possible
The New Year is filled with possibilities! You guessed it! New adventures and new opportunities to experience the goodness of the Lord await your discovery. Possibilities. Isn’t that an exciting word?! But did you know your brain may feel skeptical or even nervous...
What to Do When You Feel Lonely
Joseph was a victim of human trafficking who survived overwhelming adverse circumstances. He shows us what to do when you feel lonely.
How to Find Peace Even in the Storm
Peaceful and Safe When each of my children was a baby, I’d stand watching in amazement, longing to experience their peace. No matter the chaos or loud voices, they slept peacefully. In total vulnerability, a tiny smile creased their rosebud lips; they were safe and...
How to Find Joy in Life Again
How to Find Joy in Life Again Amid painful circumstances, I have learned Love, Hope, and Joy are based on intimacy – not on circumstances or the whims of humanity. Have You Lost Your Joy? I’ve walked many paths of sorrow in my search for joy. Growing up in a home...
What Is the True Meaning of Hope
Where Do We Find Hope? Relieved, I whispered, “Jesus, You are my Hope. Not officials. Not finding the right direction. Not doing the right thing at the right time. Not my ingenuity or abilities. Jesus is my only Hope.” Last night I dreamt I was at an airport, en-route...
What is Hanukkah?
Hanukkah Meets Advent This year Hanukkah began in conjunction with Advent. What a special gift from the Lord! I love Hanukkah; each year I celebrate, it becomes more precious to me. I attend a Presbyterian church and have been introduced to the beautiful celebration...
What’s Your Favorite Book
What's Your Favorite Book?Do you have a favorite book? I do. It comforts me when I am grieving, calms me when I am angry, encourages me when I'm afraid, and gives me direction when I feel overwhelmed or lost - it is the Word of God. No other book has given me the...
How Do You Use Your Imagination?
The Power of the Imagination The imagination is a gift from God, but it needs to be used wisely. I love to read! When I open the pages of a book, I step into a whole new world. For much of my life, I focused on novels, having my imagination set free to vicariously...
God’s Word Is a Treasure Beyond Compare
A Treasure Beyond Compare What in your life do you treasure? I love Nepal. In my mind, it is one of the most fascinating countries in the world, with vibrant green rice fields, snow-capped mountains, beautiful people, and blue butterflies the size of my hand. One day...
Let Us Love In Spirit & In Truth
How Do You See Others? How we see those who hold different opinions or beliefs determines our response to them. We view life through glasses. Perhaps we look through the lens of injustice or trauma; perhaps our eyes gaze through the lens of nurture and hope. For...
How To Become Strong When You Feel Vulnerable
How To Become Strong When You Feel Vulnerable My dear sisters & brothers, let us awaken and discern the signs of the times. Let us stop wasting energy fighting other humans. Instead, let us draw close to Jesus, looking into His face, and learning to love Him who...
You Are Not a Victim! Lessons from Daniel on Overcoming Trauma
The Trauma of Daniel The story of Daniel offers us a promise of hope. If you've experienced pain, loss, or trauma, keep reading. Daniel experienced deep trauma. Though traumatized, he refused to see himself as a victim. He was a teen when he saw loved ones killed and...
Why Your Body, Soul, and Spirit Need Regular Spiritual Cleansing
Have you ever worked all day cleaning? Once everything is immaculate, you sigh with contentment and sit down to momentarily rest your eyes, only to open them to a shock of horror? In the flash of an eye, order has turned into disorder! My experience is when you clean...
Sukkot and the Water of Siloam
Sukkot commemorates God’s faithful provision after He delivered Israel from Egypt. What does the ritual of the Water of Siloam have to do with prophecy?
God’s Appointed Times
Life's Full of Appointed TimesWaiting is one of the most difficult and exhausting occupations you will ever engage in. But in the wait, something wonderful happens. Unseen, deep within, as you wait on the Lord, your strength is renewed. Inner transformation is...
Bullies Steal Your Dignity
Have you ever faced a bully? It's a terrifying experience with long lasting harmful effects, as the goal of a bully is to steal your dignity. In this video, I share the trauma of daily being a victim of two bullies. One day my elder brother found me crying my heart...
The Spiritual Forces of Evil Will Crumble
How Will the Lord Return? The Son of Man will return with a shout and a blasting of the shofar. Those sealed with the Holy Spirit will rise to meet Him in the air; the same word used to denote the region ruled by the prince of the power of the air. Satan was...
Rosh Hashanah | Reflection and Repentance
Did you know Jesus celebrated Rosh Hashanah – the Feast of Trumpets every year of His life? If we look at traditions He engaged in, we’ll gain a clearer understanding of who He is.
You Are God’s Work of Art
Do I Have Value? “But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us,” (2 Co 4:7). Have you ever thought of yourself as a storehouse? According to Paul, you are. The place treasures and valuables are kept holds...
You Are More Than a Shell
What a Beautiful Shell You Have! Each person has a unique shell. From rich creamy brown, pale or golden, black or bronze or albino skin. Masculine. Feminine. Long and slender. Short and petite. Skinny or fat. Blonde, flaming red, luxuriant black, curly or straight...
How Should We Respond to the Murder of George Floyd?
May 25th our nation was horrified when George Floyd was murdered in cold blood. Let us: Pause. Breathe. And let us thoughtfully cry to God for help. He abhors racial violence. It must stop. Where Do We Begin? First, we need God’s help to move in wisdom to honor the...
How Can I Change My Brain? Learn Self-Care for Your Dendrites
It’s normal to experience frustration by the actions of others. But to try to change them is a waste of time and energy. Let’s say this upfront. No matter how hard you try, you can’t change anyone. The good news is you can change your brain by altering how you...
Feel Lonely? This Tip Can Help | COVID-19
Today our world is facing a threat we have never experienced before. The unknown is causing some to be riddled with fear. Others are indifferent. Please do not fear COVID-19. Fear that triggers us will open the door to the enemy of our soul, giving him permission to...
Lessons from King David on Loneliness and Isolation
David grieved before the Lord. The toxicity flooding his brain and his DNA halted. In God’s presence the loneliness and isolation loosened their grip.
Is Encouragement Possible in the Deep Place of Loneliness?
Take courage. Loneliness need not have the last word. There is an antidote. You can conquer this insidious poison. Loneliness kills. Studies conducted over several decades were thorough; each concluded loneliness is bad for your health. Once loneliness takes root,...
Be My Valentine
Valentine’s is upon us. If you are single and like many people, you probably wish you had someone who makes you feel special. I remember Valentine’s Days when I was discouraged because I was alone. Have you had that experience? Being alone feels like something is...
About Barbara
Restoring dignity and hope to trauma survivors.
As a trauma survivor, Barbara finds joy in helping people experience healing and spiritual restoration.
