Transformative Blog
Weekly blogs to help you find healing, hope, and freedom
What Is a Sweet Smelling Aroma to God?
What Is a Sweet Aroma to God? Your aroma matters. Advertising teaches it is shameful to have any body odor, so they have come up with a plethora of synthetic goods to fix us. If we buy their products, we avoid embarrassment by having no odor (except theirs). I...
Don’t Let Your Brain Hold You Back: Open the Door to Possible
The New Year is filled with possibilities! You guessed it! New adventures and new opportunities to experience the goodness of the Lord await your discovery. Possibilities. Isn’t that an exciting word?! But did you know your brain may feel skeptical or even nervous...
What to Do When You Feel Lonely
Joseph was a victim of human trafficking who survived overwhelming adverse circumstances. He shows us what to do when you feel lonely.
How to Find Peace Even in the Storm
Peaceful and Safe When each of my children was a baby, I’d stand watching in amazement, longing to experience their peace. No matter the chaos or loud voices, they slept peacefully. In total vulnerability, a tiny smile creased their rosebud lips; they were safe and...
How to Find Joy in Life Again
How to Find Joy in Life Again Amid painful circumstances, I have learned Love, Hope, and Joy are based on intimacy – not on circumstances or the whims of humanity. Have You Lost Your Joy? I’ve walked many paths of sorrow in my search for joy. Growing up in a home...
What Is the True Meaning of Hope
Where Do We Find Hope? Relieved, I whispered, “Jesus, You are my Hope. Not officials. Not finding the right direction. Not doing the right thing at the right time. Not my ingenuity or abilities. Jesus is my only Hope.” Last night I dreamt I was at an airport, en-route...
What is Hanukkah?
Hanukkah Meets Advent This year Hanukkah began in conjunction with Advent. What a special gift from the Lord! I love Hanukkah; each year I celebrate, it becomes more precious to me. I attend a Presbyterian church and have been introduced to the beautiful celebration...
What’s Your Favorite Book
What's Your Favorite Book?Do you have a favorite book? I do. It comforts me when I am grieving, calms me when I am angry, encourages me when I'm afraid, and gives me direction when I feel overwhelmed or lost - it is the Word of God. No other book has given me the...
How Do You Use Your Imagination?
The Power of the Imagination The imagination is a gift from God, but it needs to be used wisely. I love to read! When I open the pages of a book, I step into a whole new world. For much of my life, I focused on novels, having my imagination set free to vicariously...
God’s Word Is a Treasure Beyond Compare
A Treasure Beyond Compare What in your life do you treasure? I love Nepal. In my mind, it is one of the most fascinating countries in the world, with vibrant green rice fields, snow-capped mountains, beautiful people, and blue butterflies the size of my hand. One day...
Let Us Love In Spirit & In Truth
How Do You See Others? How we see those who hold different opinions or beliefs determines our response to them. We view life through glasses. Perhaps we look through the lens of injustice or trauma; perhaps our eyes gaze through the lens of nurture and hope. For...
How To Become Strong When You Feel Vulnerable
How To Become Strong When You Feel Vulnerable My dear sisters & brothers, let us awaken and discern the signs of the times. Let us stop wasting energy fighting other humans. Instead, let us draw close to Jesus, looking into His face, and learning to love Him who...
You Are Not a Victim! Lessons from Daniel on Overcoming Trauma
The Trauma of Daniel The story of Daniel offers us a promise of hope. If you've experienced pain, loss, or trauma, keep reading. Daniel experienced deep trauma. Though traumatized, he refused to see himself as a victim. He was a teen when he saw loved ones killed and...
Why Your Body, Soul, and Spirit Need Regular Spiritual Cleansing
Have you ever worked all day cleaning? Once everything is immaculate, you sigh with contentment and sit down to momentarily rest your eyes, only to open them to a shock of horror? In the flash of an eye, order has turned into disorder! My experience is when you clean...
Sukkot and the Water of Siloam
Sukkot commemorates God’s faithful provision after He delivered Israel from Egypt. What does the ritual of the Water of Siloam have to do with prophecy?
God’s Appointed Times
Life's Full of Appointed Times Waiting is one of the most difficult and exhausting occupations you will ever engage in. But in the wait, something wonderful happens. Unseen, deep within, as you wait on the Lord, your strength is renewed. Inner transformation is...
Bullies Steal Your Dignity
Have you ever faced a bully? It's a terrifying experience with long lasting harmful effects, as the goal of a bully is to steal your dignity. In this video, I share the trauma of daily being a victim of two bullies. One day my elder brother found me crying my heart...
The Spiritual Forces of Evil Will Crumble
How Will the Lord Return? The Son of Man will return with a shout and a blasting of the shofar. Those sealed with the Holy Spirit will rise to meet Him in the air; the same word used to denote the region ruled by the prince of the power of the air. Satan was...
Rosh Hashanah | Reflection and Repentance
Did you know Jesus celebrated Rosh Hashanah – the Feast of Trumpets every year of His life? If we look at traditions He engaged in, we’ll gain a clearer understanding of who He is.
You Are God’s Work of Art
Do I Have Value? “But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us,” (2 Co 4:7). Have you ever thought of yourself as a storehouse? According to Paul, you are. The place treasures and valuables are kept holds...
You Are More Than a Shell
What a Beautiful Shell You Have! Each person has a unique shell. From rich creamy brown, pale or golden, black or bronze or albino skin. Masculine. Feminine. Long and slender. Short and petite. Skinny or fat. Blonde, flaming red, luxuriant black, curly or straight...
How Should We Respond to the Murder of George Floyd?
May 25th our nation was horrified when George Floyd was murdered in cold blood. Let us: Pause. Breathe. And let us thoughtfully cry to God for help. He abhors racial violence. It must stop. Where Do We Begin? First, we need God’s help to move in wisdom to honor the...
How Can I Change My Brain? Learn Self-Care for Your Dendrites
It’s normal to experience frustration by the actions of others. But to try to change them is a waste of time and energy. Let’s say this upfront. No matter how hard you try, you can’t change anyone. The good news is you can change your brain by altering how you...
Feel Lonely? This Tip Can Help | COVID-19
Today our world is facing a threat we have never experienced before. The unknown is causing some to be riddled with fear. Others are indifferent. Please do not fear COVID-19. Fear that triggers us will open the door to the enemy of our soul, giving him permission to...
Lessons from King David on Loneliness and Isolation
David grieved before the Lord. The toxicity flooding his brain and his DNA halted. In God’s presence the loneliness and isolation loosened their grip.
Is Encouragement Possible in the Deep Place of Loneliness?
Take courage. Loneliness need not have the last word. There is an antidote. You can conquer this insidious poison. Loneliness kills. Studies conducted over several decades were thorough; each concluded loneliness is bad for your health. Once loneliness takes root,...
Be My Valentine
Valentine’s is upon us. If you are single and like many people, you probably wish you had someone who makes you feel special. I remember Valentine’s Days when I was discouraged because I was alone. Have you had that experience? Being alone feels like something is...
Never Retired from Love: A Boomer’s Guide to Loving Millennials
God has gifted you in special ways and has taken you on a journey where your life experiences equip you to pray for, affirm, and even mentor a Millennial.
Fawn Response: The Trauma Response You Probably Don’t Know About
The Fawn Response Though we hate to admit it, deep down, we all engage in some form of people-pleasing. To fawn is to be a people-pleaser. But the fawn response takes people-pleasing to a distinct depth. This little known response to trauma is the fourth survival...
Your Brain is Lying to You
The Flight Response You are fearfully and wonderfully created. God made you to be sensitive to your environment so you can quickly respond to danger. The flight response is a healthy form of temporary survival where your reptilian brain takes over to keep you safe...
The Fight Response: Anger Will Not Protect You
STUCK IN THE FIGHT MODE Our focus today is the fight mode. To stand and fight in the face of danger is wise. But to become locked in the fight mode is foolish because it exposes you to danger. Saul, the first king of Israel, chose to embrace anger because it felt...
How to Overcome the Freeze Response
Do You Freeze Under Stress? While camouflage is part of human warfare, it’s not a skill you or I chose to develop. If we're honest, when apprehensive, fearful of making a wrong choice, or not wanting to hurt anyone, we tend to freeze. Experiencing trauma in childhood,...
How to Move Into a New Decade With Courage and Confidence
Let’s begin with the small picture before we think about facing a new decade with confidence. Have you ever come to the end of a year feeling you’d accomplished nothing? I have. Trying to figure out what went wrong, I learned the adage is true. “If you aim for...
God the Father is Your Defender
The Bible says the Father God has a special love for you. He doesn’t judge you. He reaches out to draw you to His heart to a place of safety.
Are You Ready to Step Into Your Destiny?
Dear Heart Do you feel like you have missed your destiny? There is good news! Don’t be discouraged. In spite of missed opportunities, it is never too late to move forward and step into your destiny. Sorrow and pain precede the glory and fruit of experiencing one’s...
The Incredible Courage of Ruth
Have You Ever Felt Broken or Destitue? I love Ruth. Grieving, feeling broken and destitute, in vunerability, she demonstrated incredible courage. Her respect and love for her mother-in-law, Naomi, inspired her to make a decision that would impact the world. Listening...
Loved Like Never Before: Interview With Ken Symington
The Father You Always Wanted God designed you and I with a need to belong, be valued, and be loved. Apart from that foundation, we experience shame. Struggling to survive, we desperately strive to belong, be loved, and be valued for who we are. If we're honest, most...
What Do You Do When You Are So Depressed You Want to Die?
Celebration The year ended with a delightful trip to Trafalgar Square with friends to celebrate New Years. In order to catch the last train home, we left the busy thoroughfare where hundreds of people still celebrated and took a shortcut down a deserted street. ...
Negative Thoughts Have a Huge Impact: A Powerful Way to Escape Negativity’s Trap
Negative Thoughts Did you know negative thoughts: Produce a harvest of bad things Bring about the things you dread Produce negative words Cause harm to your body Hold the power of death Bring a curse on you and your loved ones I grew up believing I didn't deserve to...
5 Simple Keys to Trauma Recovery
Trauma is real. While medical journals say there’s no cure, you have power to move out of victimization by choosing life. If you live in the present and take specific steps to retrain your brain, you will experience resurrection power setting you free from the past....
Is It Possible to Recover from Trauma?
Trauma creates overwhelming feelings of being out of control. You feel helpless. You experience feelings of being smothered, where you desperately work to find breath to survive. You struggle to cope, unable to find words to describe your constant sense of danger or...
How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs and Our Desire for Safety
If you've experienced trauma, you've been thrown off balance. Feeling threatened, instinctively you try to hide. Where possible, you run away - even if only in your mind. But you have the power to learn how to overcome limiting beliefs that immobilize you in your...
You are Not Covered in Shame
Overcoming Limiting Beliefs It’s crazy how often we think God is being mean or unfair to us, that He finds pleasure in watching us squirm and struggle. But isn't true! God hates evil. He doesn’t hate you. He's not angry with you but He is angry about sin done against...
The Guts and Glory of Forgiveness
Find Healing Through Forgiveness The greatest and most arduous adventures of life I have embarked upon are the mountains of forgiveness. The journey is fraught with perils and difficulty. But each time I reach a pinnacle - the vista is gorgeous. My heart is filled...
Find Spiritual Healing Through Self-Forgiveness
Do you strive for perfection but always come up a bit short? Feeling like a failure is depressing. I used to believe I was a failure. I thought self-forgiveness was for others, not for me. Deep inside I felt I didn't deserve to be forgiven. I also felt I could never...
About Barbara
Restoring dignity and hope to trauma survivors.
As a trauma survivor, Barbara finds joy in helping people experience healing and spiritual restoration.
